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How to Win a Guy Back

If you’ve recently broken up with your husband or boyfriend or if your relationship is on the rocks, it can be an extremely traumatic experience. The feeling of loss, sadness, even depression can be overwhelming. You want to win your guy back but what can you do?

First, it’s time for some serious soul searching. What really happened between you? This is the time for some honest insight and analysis. Before you blindly start apologizing, taking all the blame and begging for forgiveness, you need to pause and reflect. What caused the problems in your relationship? Successful relationships are a two way street and require hard work and effort from both parties. Before you automatically try to repair the breakup, you need to decide if the relationship is worth saving.

Most of us tend to get very comfortable in our own little ruts. Even though the relationship isn’t very positive or satisfying, it’s comfortable and "safe". You know the old saying, "the devil you know is better than the devil you don’t". Being alone is the devil you don’t know and usually scares the hell out of us. So before you jump back with both feet, make sure the relationship is worth saving and you will benefit personally by making up.

Okay, so after some analysis and reflection, you decide the relationship is worth saving and your guy is a keeper. Then what? First, take an honest look and decide what you can do better. Do you communicate your feelings honestly without attempting to make your guy feel guilty? Most guys don’t express their personal feelings easily and honestly but it’s important that both of you try. It might take some effort to get your guy to open up but if you can do it in a nonjudgmental way, it will be worth it in the long run.

Are you fun to be around or do you tend to be negative and complain? No one wants to be around negative people that bring the whole room down. If that sounds like you, make a conscious effort to be more positive. If you find yourself being negative, ask yourself "do I really feel this way or is my negativity just a bad habit". It’s fine to disagree but if you do it habitually, that’s a problem that needs to stop. Do you enjoy doing different types of things- you know "variety is the spice of life"? Being open to new experiences can be fun for you and lets your guy know you care about what he want too.

You get the point. Be honest and open about your behavior and how you can improve. However, as I sad before successful relationships are a two way street. None of us is perfect so your guy has to be willing to make changes too. The best way I’ve found to help make that happen is to have an open, honest discussion with him about how you feel. Discuss whatever he is doing (or not doing) that you feel is negatively impacting your relationship. It’s very important for you not to be critical or accusatory. Listen to what he has to say as well. Hopefully if he cares about you and your relationship, he’ll listen and be open to your feelings and ideas too.

Change isn’t easy and maintaining a successful relationship is very hard. Every relationship and couple are different, so your situation and problems may vary. Most importantly, don’t neglect yourself. If you do your best, chances are you will succeed and be happy at this and so much more.